How did everything arrive here on earth?
Why are we here? What is the reason we live?
Why is there evil in the world?
What happens when a person dies?
Who buries them? Where are they buried?
What happens to the person's spirit? Where does it go? Does it die with the body?
How does a man choose a wife?
How is the bride price determined?
If a man wants a second (or third or fourth) wife, how does that work?
These are just a few of the questions I have been able to spend my afternoons asking the Tonga people. After a morning full of studying the ciTonga language, I go out in the afternoon, either with my supervisor's wife or an interpreter and visit with different women and ask these questions and so many more. It's been another reminder to me of how welcoming this culture is. We can walk up to a person's yard, greet them, and then ask if they have time to help me learn about the baTonga people. And they almost always say yes. I can only think of one lady who was on her way to sell things in the market and didn't have the time. Every other home has welcomed us. And so we sit outside under the African sun (or these days, the African rain clouds that come with the rainy season) and chat. They always bring a wooden bench for me to sit on. They usually sit on the ground or on the concrete porch area outside their house. I sometimes feel silly sitting on the bench when I would be just as happy to sit with them on the ground, but I dare not offend their gesture of hospitality and respect by saying so. And I ask question after question. Some people are more open to talk with me than others. Sometimes things are lost in translation. But still I learn from every single conversation.
And with each conversation, I fall more in love with the people I will be living with for the next two years. I hope my time here is spent as a learner just as much as it is spent as a teacher. I look forward to getting back to Siavonga in a couple of weeks and getting to build relationships with women and girls that will be my friends and cultural teachers while I am here.
I do ask that you be praying for my health. I have spent the past several days not feeling well, which has kept me from doing many of the things I was so looking forward to doing during my time of orientation here with my supervisor. I am feeling better today, though trying not to do so much that I backslide tomorrow. Pray I will have really good health these last few days I have here at orientation so I will be able to learn and share more with the Tonga people.
And because I know you're all dying for some pictures:
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| Micah, Emily, me, and Taylor at my airport arrival |
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| coming in from the fields |
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| outdoor cooking |
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| These children waited by our car for almost an hour while we talked with people just so they could wave and say "Hello!" |
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| sunset over Lake Kariba from the Langstons' kitchen window |
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| the kids playing church with friends in the yard |







